XPLCIT Assistance & BDSM

 

XPLCIT Assist & BDSM
BDSM - Bondage and Discipline (B&D), Dominance and Submission (D&S), Sadism & Masochism (S&M).
Why We Do It?
BDSM covers a range of kinks: whether it’s spanking you’re into, electro, bondage, or CBT. What unites us is the desire to push our boundaries as consenting adults and reach new sexual highs. Pain can be orgasmic, and the power exchange can escalate and embolden the bond of trust between guys.

The Nuts and Bolts of It.
Whether you’re the active/dominant/top and you enjoy asserting control, or you’re the passive/submissive/bottom and you enjoy being dominated, or you’re versatile/switch, BDSM pushes the boundaries of conventional sex and relationships for consenting adults, blurring the line between pleasure and pain. There’s a massive world of kink, here are some of the more popular practices:
Bondage
Bondage involves any form of consensual restraining, tying, binding or restricting of a partner during sex, or for erotic or aesthetic pleasure. For the sub, the desire can be to feel the constraints binding tightly around your skin. It can be about the feeling of complete helplessness and dependence on other people, the degradation or adulation of being used as a sex object. For the top, bondage can be an art form, with meticulous attention given to the knots tied. Dominating a guy bound up for you might be the ultimate in worship and control, and bondage can often lead to other Sub/Dom activities like CP, electro, or torture. Mummification is tightly wrapping someone’s entire body in bindings, a sack, straight jacket, cling film or similar, allowing just a hole for them to breath. Sometimes hands are cuffed, sometimes legs are bound, sometimes a person is hogtied, frog-tied, or strapped to a bench/cross; there are no real rules to bondage or what is used to bind someone, only what is negotiated by the guys beforehand. Corporal Punishment (CP) is getting pleasure from receiving or inflicting pain on another guy, usually by striking with hands or various objects, like paddles and canes. Often, the bottom is bound and gagged and subjected to verbal humiliation as well as being spanked. CP can trigger memories/fantasies of strict teachers or military life, which builds into the role-play scenarios played out. For the masochist, being ‘forced’ to bear flesh while being tied up and verbally and physically beaten is the ultimate in humiliation. The excitement of the sudden sting of the cane or whip is combined with the anticipation of the next strike, the drama of the situation, and pushing the boundaries of how much pain you can take. Your body and pain mix release endorphins with pleasure; the mind can travel to a powerful dream state often called “Sub Space”.
For the Top/Sadist, it is all about control: the intoxication of the commanding position you’re in, releasing your aggression on a slave that is begging you to beat them. A good Dom/Sub relationship will be founded by strong bonds of trust and respect that grow stronger as a result of the play.
Breathe Control
BC is the practice of restricting your own or another guy’s ability to breath during sex. The lack of oxygen can make you light headed and can heighten the suspense and feeling of an orgasm. A common practice in domination/submission play, choking someone can be seen as the ultimate in power dynamics: you’re quite literally putting your life in someone else’s hands. It’s common for rope, cling film, collars, gas masks, hoods, and bare hands to be used. Rebreathing is restricting oxygen by two partners breathing the same air back and forth, either by locking lips or through a device chamber, increasing the amount of carbon dioxide inhaled and made you light headed.
Cock and Ball Torture
CBT is getting your kicks from manipulating your cock and balls, or those of others, to cause pain. It can be anything from squeezing, slapping, binding or stomping on your cock and balls. Torturing your own, or someone else’s cock can be incredibly hot for some, and guys claim that the endorphins released by CBT add to the sensitivity of their cock and the intensity of their orgasm. CBT can be as extreme as cutting, or punching or kicking someone in the balls, or as moderate as pulling, shaving, or pinching the skin with pegs. As men know, your cock is one of the most sensitive places on the body and a potent symbol of masculine identity- even the biggest guys can be brought down by a blow to the balls. When another guy takes your dick in their hands, they can hold complete control over you and whether you receive pleasure or pain is entirely up to them. This feeling is heightened when bondage and blindfolding are involved.
Electro
Electro is the art of using an electrical current to stimulate the nerves of the body. This is done with tools that plug into a power source (Violet Wand, TENS, EMS or ‘made-for-play’ units) and can be done on you by yourself, or with partners.
The electric shock can tingle or be painful, a short jolt or a prolonged stimulation. Often the excitement stems from the anticipation between the blows, but focused electric current on your cock and arse can produce powerful orgasms not usually possible in vanilla sex. Specialised internal attachments like sounds and butt plugs, as well as external electrodes, may be used, as well as specific gels and lubes that conduct electricity.

Think About It!
Regardless of your kink, with any fetish play, the best way to reduce risk is to negotiate your boundaries with your partners, this can be before and during play.
Negotiation
Negotiation doesn’t have to be stale and boring, it can add to the excitement leading up to your encounter, but what’s important is that you and your partners are very clear about what they will and won’t do. Some important points you may want to negotiate with your partner/s prior are:
Fuck raw or with condoms
Using alcohol or other drugs
Safe words
Roles
Types of play / yours and your partner’s limits
Time and place
Health concerns / Relevant medical info
After Care
Safe words
A safe word is a simple way to tell someone to stop. These words should be agreed before play, and are best when they’re not a term that could come up quickly in conversation, like “Mercy”, to avoid confusion if anyone is screaming in pleasure or yelling “no more” when he or she means “more”. You might want to choose a second safe word that means “slow down”. If you’re using a gag, you may want to agree upon grunts or hand gestures/tapping instead.
After Care
A considerable part of dom/sub play is the aftercare. This can involve rewarding your sub, massage the tender skin, sterilising and bandaging any wounds, and be checking in with your partners about how they are doing. For all the rough stuff that goes on, BDSM can be a very intimate experience, and aftercare is a way of strengthening those bonds of trust and respect.
The Law
Technically, in regards to the law, a person cannot consent to “actual bodily harm”, such as cutting hair or breaking the skin. So if you’re into harder play, be aware that this is a grey area in the Law, and people have been convicted of a crime in the past for BDSM play. It’s important to note that these cases are sporadic, and can be best avoided with all partners consenting to the kink.
Things To Think About With Your Specific Kink
Bondage
Emergency release: keeping a cutting tool handy, an extra set of keys for cuffs, and easy-release knots help to access medical treatment if anything goes wrong.
Be mindful of who restrains you: people have been robbed, assaulted, and abandoned after being tied up. Not too tight for too long: Cutting off circulation can do severe harm and some play, like mummification, has been known to suffocate the Sub. Don’t abandon someone tied up. One finger for one hour: Ensure there is a finger’s width gap between the skin and the rope/collars/cuffs you’re tying someone up with and to avoid blood clotting or suffocation, only leave them restrained for an hour each time.
Corporal Punishment
Start slow and build up to harder blows to prepare your sub.
Keep a constant verbal communication: “You like that?”, “Yes, sir”. Make sure the bottom is free to give signals to stop or slow down. Avoid striking areas without much meat like the head (risk to eyes and ears), the spine, the genitals, the kidney area and the stomach. Spread the blows over a wide surface area to avoid breaking the skin. Allow for recovery time: the harder you hit, the longer you wait. Any broken skin can increase the chance of transmission of blood-borne viruses like Hep C and HIV. Hep C can live in dried blood for up to 4-5 days so protect these from other bodily fluids and clean whips/canes/equipment with soapy water or TCP/Viraclean between partners.
Cock and Ball Torture
The cock and balls are easily damaged; swelling, coldness and numbness are signs to stop immediately. Make sure the bottom is free to give signals to stop or slow down.
Not too tight for too long: cutting off the circulation can cause long-term damage – check the ties every half hour. Metal cock rings can’t be cut off easily if something goes wrong – leather and rubber ones can. Seek medical help immediately if you erect cock “cracks” or blood vessels burst, forming a pool under the skin. This can lead to clotting if it keeps growing and this is dangerous. Get to some immediate medical attention if your balls swell and cause severe pain: this can be a sign they’ve ruptured or the chords holding them in place have twisted. This has serious implications for long-term health.
Breath Control
Breath control can be dangerous if not done right: starved of oxygen, permanent brain damage can occur after 4 minutes, and death after just 4-6 minutes.
Avoid if you have a heart condition: Any lack of oxygen to the brain can cause a heart attack – the body signals the heart to push more blood to the mind long after choking, meaning cardiac arrest can happen hours later. Don’t do it alone: no matter how safe the precautions, if something goes wrong and you fall unconscious, you may hit your head or continue to choke and there is no way to get help.
Feinting: If you feel faint, lie down. If someone does feint, remove any gags or restraints and place them in the recovery position. If they do not wake up within 60 seconds, call an ambulance immediately. Avoiding tying anything around the neck can reduce risk: Use your hands or ties over it instead. If you’re rebreathing through connected gas-masks it is possible for both partners to pass out, take turns instead, so one person is always on hand to get help. Never leave someone alone during breath control play.
Electro
Only below the waist: Any electric current passing through the heart or brain can cause severe injury or cardiac arrest. Avoid the chest (including nipples), neck, head, arms and hands. Watch out for piercings that can get hot and burn the skin. Allowing the bottom to control the current can help make sure pain thresholds are respected. Avoid electro if you have epilepsy, a heart condition or history of seizures and strokes. Some of us get off on exercising complete control over another person, degrading them in front of others and letting them know they are our property.

BEFORE YOU EXPERIMENT, DO YOUR RESEARCH!
Using a blindfold or an ice cube or fuzzy handcuffs are harmless beginner play. Before you play around with some of the trickier/ complicated and more dangerous items you need to learn how to do so safely. Even a rope or a whip can be hazardous if you don’t know what you’re doing and can potentially inflict the wrong pain towards the submissive or dominate. One more thing guys, have a safe word and have the conversation early in the interaction.


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